. This lie often comes as the logical conclusion of belief in the first two. It works something like this: • If I have a biological need, and • if fulfilling this need is the basic thing I live for, • then, when I get married or when my marriage is sexually satisfying, I will have both my outlet and the thing I live for. If you have counseled married men, you are already aware of how desperately false this can be. It can be devastating when a man finds he